Advice for the Overwhelmed

Some time ago a person seeking help shared with me feelings he routinely has when under stress. As needs pile up, he usually feels overwhelmed and almost paralyzed by thoughts that there is no way he can handle all that is on his plate. He is a hard-working, industrious person who cares for a lot of people, but inside, in those moments, there is a strong desire to run away and avoid the pressure.


Just in case there are some others of you who have times like this, let me tell you what I suggested.


First, recognize quickly when such feelings start coming on so you can respond appropriately.


Second, right in the middle of all those feelings, stop everything and pray. That was something this person had not been doing, but we should try nothing else until we have laid the facts and the feelings all before God.


Third, make a list of those things that seem so overwhelming. Prioritize them. This helps us look at manageable pieces instead of just feeling this ominous ill-defined cloud over us.


Fourth, talk over a plan with a friend and get his or her perspective. This brings wisdom. Plus not feeling alone makes a big difference.


Finally, break out of the paralysis by beginning to work through your list, praying as you go.


An overwhelming surge of needs can emotionally produce in us a desire to escape. But, by the grace of God, we can choose to see it as an opportunity—an opportunity to turn again to God, an opportunity to be humble and get help from others, an opportunity for our character to mature. That choice is an act of trust that reverses a negative cycle.

Focus Scripture

Psalm 31:10-15

My life is consumed by anguish
and my years by groaning;
my strength fails because of my affliction,
and my bones grow weak.

11Because of all my enemies,
I am the utter contempt of my neighbors;
I am a dread to my friends--
those who see me on the street flee from me.

12I am forgotten by them as though I were dead;
I have become like broken pottery.
13For I hear the slander of many;
there is terror on every side;
they conspire against me
and plot to take my life.

14But I trust in you, O LORD;
I say, "You are my God."
15My times are in your hands;
deliver me from my enemies
and from those who pursue me.